How Can I Be More Fun Around Men? 5 Expert Tips

Who doesn't like to be around fun people? Fun people exude a vibe that lifts the mood of those they come into contact with. They're usually happy-go-lucky and their positive energy makes you wonder if they ever have a bad day.

You can be just as fun as they are by developing certain personality traits and sharpening your social skills. It takes time and effort, but you'll know you're doing something right when you start seeing people gravitate toward you. Not only that, you'll enjoy the benefits of having the ability to naturally draw people in.

In this blog, we'll introduce 5 experts' tips on how to be more fun and the ways of improving your EQ.

5 Expert Tips on How to Be More Fun

1. Be open and willing to share

To be open is the opposite of appearing closed off or aloof. Have you ever noticed that showing vulnerability by opening up about your personal experiences, challenges, and mistakes breaks down the defense of others? That's exactly what will make you appear captivating. Your listeners will be all ears and grow more curious about you as you share your inner thoughts and feelings.

People also find openness and transparency attractive because it helps build trust. In fact, they'll realize you're totally relatable and may jump at the opportunity to share their own stories, even dark secrets. Before you know it, you are all having an enjoyable conversation where you're exchanging ideas or sharing personal experiences.

2. Improve emotional intelligence

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) refers to the human ability to recognize and properly process your own emotions. EQ helps you manage stress in positive ways and show resilience in the face of adversity. Empathy is also a big part of EQ and allows you to feel how people feel. You're able to connect and sense when they're not okay.

As such, you will think before speaking or acting and will proceed in ways that are supportive, such as assisting them to find solutions. People will appreciate your company more if you try to understand, instead of being critical, judgmental, or offensive.

3. Practice being non-judgmental

I don't know about you, but I dislike being around those who come across as judgmental. I want to be my true self. Always. Flaws and all. To prevent people from feeling as if they're walking on eggshells, you'll need to accept them for who they are.

Everyday life is already stressful, so when people get together with you, try and make them feel at ease. Allow them to let their hair down and act the fool. Be that person who won't criticize them or point out their faults when they open up and share themselves with you. Your friends and associates will come to love you as someone who is not only fun to be with but also a safe haven.

4. Don't talk about yourself all the time

Becoming a fun person essentially means becoming a people person. Enough of the “I this, and I that.” You'll risk coming across as self-centered and narcissistic. Instead, direct more focus on those around you and less on yourself.

People seek external or social validation as a way to feel better about themselves. Knowing that you see, hear, understand, compliment, and validate them will inspire people to stay connected. Who doesn't want to be around such a person? You'll be like their emotional support system when they feel down or need someone to talk to.

5. Let the joke be on you

No one wants to be around anyone who acts like they're perfect. That only makes them feel judged and more self-conscious about their flaws or weaknesses. Show that you're a fun and light-hearted person by unleashing your goofy side and poking fun at yourself.

You instantly become more likable and relatable if you can laugh at your own mistakes. I like to tell people that I'm such a klutz who can't seem to stop knocking things over. It's true. I'm clumsy. They think it's hilarious. Anyway, once I realized that making fun of my flaws made people laugh and connect more easily, I started joking about other personal imperfections.

As we mentioned above, improving EQ helps make us more fun. So, next, we'll discuss how to improve our EQ.

How to Improve Emotional Intelligence

1. Practice observing how you feel

Often we lead hectic, busy lifestyles and it’s all too easy for us to lose touch with our emotions. To reconnect, try setting a timer for various points during the day. When the timer goes off, take a few deep breaths and notice how you’re feeling emotionally. Pay attention to where that emotion is showing up as a physical feeling in your body and what the sensation feels like. The more you practice, the more it will become second nature.

2. Pay attention to how you behave

While you’re practicing your emotional awareness, take the time to notice your behaviour too. Observe how you act when you’re experiencing certain emotions, and how that affects your day-to-day life. Managing our emotions becomes easier once we become more conscious of how we react to them.

3. Question your own opinions

In this hyper-connected world, it is easy to fall into an ‘opinion bubble’. This is a state of existence where your own opinions are constantly reinforced by people with similar viewpoints. Take time to read the other side of the story and have your views challenged (even if you still feel they are right). This will help you understand other people and be more receptive to new ideas.

4. Take responsibility for your feelings

Your emotions and behaviour come from you, they don’t come from anyone else and once you start accepting responsibility for how you feel and how you behave it will have a positive impact on all areas of your life.

5. Take time to celebrate the positive

A key part of emotional intelligence is celebrating and reflecting on the positive moments in life. People who experience positive emotions are generally more resilient and more likely to have fulfilling relationships, which will help them move past adversity.

6. But don’t ignore the negative

Reflecting on negative feelings is just as important as reflecting on the positive. Understanding why you feel negative is key to becoming a fully-rounded individual, who is more able to deal with negative issues in the future.

7. Don’t forget to breathe

Life throws various situations our way, with most of us experiencing some sort of stress on a regular basis. To manage your emotions when this happens and to avoid outbursts, don’t forget to breathe. Call a time out and go put some cold water on your face, go outside and get some fresh air or make a drink – anything to keep your cool and give yourself a chance to get a hold on what’s happening and how you should respond.

8. Learn to look at yourself objectively

Knowing yourself completely is difficult and it’s almost impossible to look at yourself objectively, so input from those who know you is vital. Ask them where your strengths and weaknesses lie, write down what they say and compare it. Look out for any patterns and remember not to argue with them – it doesn’t mean they’re right – they’re just trying to help you gauge your perception from another’s point of view.

9. Acknowledge your emotional triggers

Self-aware individuals are able to recognize their emotions as they occur. It’s important to be flexible with your emotions and adapt them to your situation. Don’t deny your emotions stage time but don’t be rigid with them either, take the time to process your emotions before communicating them.

10. Don’t get mad

Funnel your emotional energy into something productive. It’s okay to keep overwhelming emotions inside, especially if it’s not an appropriate time to let them out. However, when you do, rather than vent it on something futile, turn it into motivation instead. Don’t get mad, get better.

11. Positive thinking

To keep motivated it’s important to maintain a positive and optimistic mindset. See problems and setbacks as learning opportunities instead of failings and try to avoid negative people and opt to surround yourself with positive, well-motivated people – they’ll have a great effect on you.

Conclusion

In this blog, we explored the exciting topic of being more fun and enhancing emotional intelligence (EQ) by incorporating five expert tips. By implementing these tips, you can not only infuse more joy and laughter into your life but also strengthen your ability to understand and manage emotions, build stronger connections, and navigate social interactions with greater finesse.