Safety Tips for Sugar Daddies & Sugar Babies: Is it Safe?

Sugar dating, also called sugaring, is a pseudo-romantic transactional sexual relationship between an older wealthy person and a younger person. Payment can be received by way of money, gifts like designer goods, jewelry, support, or other material benefits in exchange for companionship or a dating-like relationship. The person who receives the gifts is called a sugar baby (or in the case of men, traditionally a gigolo), while their paying partner is called a sugar daddy or sugar momma.

Seeking.com is an American sugar dating service founded by Brandon Wade in San Francisco, California, in 2006. The biggest concern that most would-be sugar daters tend to have about platforms like Seeking.com is security and safety. So it has a decent verification system and safety rating. The sugar dating service has a strong commitment to safety and security, with lots of tools and features aimed at keeping the platform free from scammers.

However, there are still some people worrying about their safety on Seeking.com.

In this blog, we'll discuss the reasons why Seeking.com is safe, the dangers of being in a sugar relationship, and some safety tips for sugar babies.

The Reasons Why Seeking.com Is Safe

1. Security Verification

Seeking.com has a decent verification system to ensure the safety of users. It'll be a waste of time if your information is not secure or every other user you find on the site is a fake profile. This website guarantees users' safety and security, and offers lots of tools and functions which can prevent users from scammers. Also, Seeking.com uses a mix of AI and the human touch to root out bots and fake profiles.

2. Cooperation with URSafe

URSafe is a leading personal safety mobile app that is designed for the safety of you and your loved ones. If someone is following you but you can't use your phone, with just the click of a button, you can now send a silent alert to your loved ones or local authorities and be safe. Also, it's the first hands-free 911 integrated app with GPS, SOS, and voice activation.

Seeking.com partners with URSafe to offer several different tools geared toward keeping each user safe on the app and during dates.

3. Follow Me Function

Follow Me is a tool that lets a trusted contact keep track of your whereabouts throughout a date, safety checks triggered to locations and automatic and voice-activated emergency contact modes. For instance, a young woman meeting a sugar daddy for the first time can focus on the date, knowing that she's protected if something goes wrong.

Dangers of Being in A Sugar Relationship

1. Sugar Daddy Scammers

One of the most obvious dangers of being a sugar baby is the risk of being spoiled by sugar daddy scammers. A sugar daddy scam is when a scammer poses as a rich benefactor looking for a sugar baby to spoil. The scam unfolds with the sugar daddy trying to swindle a victim in need of money or looking for a lavish lifestyle. Sugar daddy scams often begin on social media.

Sugar daddy scams usually start with a direct message to the victim via Instagram, Facebook, or other social media platforms. In my example below, it all started on Instagram. After the initial conversation, fake sugar daddies like to move the conversation to another, more private platform, like WhatsApp, iMessage, or another texting app.

The good news is that these scammers are easy to spot and even easier to avoid. You just need to know what to look for and how to protect yourself.

2. Fake Sugar Daddy

There are also other types of fake sugar daddies who like to lurk on sugar dating platforms.

The most common one that first-time sugar babies often fall for is the insidious Salt Daddy. These are men who pose as sugar daddies in order to sleep with sugar babies. Once they get what they want, they disappear. No sugar was given.

We especially recommend avoiding Salt Daddies because they will leave you feeling used and taken advantage of. Casual sex is one thing but misleading and dangling unfulfilled promises to obtain sex is quite another.

3. Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse involves controlling another person by using emotions to criticize, embarrass, shame, blame, or otherwise manipulate them. Emotional abuse can chip away at your self-esteem, and you can begin to doubt your perceptions and reality. In the end, you may feel trapped.

This type of man is degrading, controlling, and thinks they own you. Once you feel emotionally abused, just stop the relationship and leave.

4. Sexual Assault

This is not to say that sexual assault is a unique danger of being a sugar baby. Unfortunately, sexual assault is a danger of being a female.

And when it comes to the online space, it can be magnified, simply because there is a greater pool of unvetted people. That’s why so many mainstream online dating platforms and apps have reported cases of sexual assault.

Sugar daddy dating is a form of online dating so beware that all the usual risks apply. You don’t know exactly who you’re talking to online so please follow the safety precautions we outline below.

5. Over Dependence

Allowing yourself to become too dependent on your sugar daddy places you in a very vulnerable position. If a sugar daddy is paying your rent (or the owner of the luxury apartment you live in), all living expenses, car payments, tuition fees, and everything else and you have no other means of financial support – you are not just a kept sugar baby. You’re a trapped one.

It means you can’t leave if the sugar relationship turns sour. You have nowhere to go. If the sugar daddy ever changes his mind and decides to “let you go” – you’d be in a terrible position.

Some Safe Tips for Sugar Babies

1. Stick to Safe Sugar Daddy Websites

Usually, the websites that appeal specifically to people who are interested in sugar dating rather than the general population are safer places for sugar babies. Because sugar daddies need to pay for their registration, and this weeds out lots of scammers and Salt Daddies. What's more, sugar daddy websites use a combination of AI and humans to weed out fake profiles, which also reduces the potential of mingling with scammers.

2. Protect Your Information

A crucial safety tip for sugar babies is all about protecting your personal information.

In the initial stages of chatting with a potential sugar daddy, keep your personal info to yourself. That includes your name, where you live, and where you work or go to school.

People with ill intentions can use information like your name and email to find private information like your home address and where you work. So keep those to yourself.

3. Phone Chat And Video Call Before Meeting

One sugar baby safety tip that is absolutely non-negotiable is this: Always do a phone chat and/or video call before meeting.

A quick Facetime or video call immediately lets you see that the potential sugar daddy is who they say they are. Insist on a little phone or video call just so you can “get to know them a bit better” before meeting.

4. An Identity Check Before Every Date

Some sugar daddies prefer to remain anonymous, but most will give you a phone number and a name. That is all you need to do a reverse phone look-up. If you do a thorough search, you’ll be able to find their full name, their address, whether they own a home, who else lives with them, etc.

You can then match this information with what they’ve told you to see if the person is legitimate or spinning lies. Another good idea is to look up the person on a sex offender database. Several sites offer database searches by name and location.

5. Always Meet in Public

This one is obvious and pertains to all online dating. Even if you have been talking to a potential sugar daddy for an extended period of time, the first meeting should always be in a public place with plenty of other people around.

Under no circumstances should a potential sugar daddy invite himself to your home (major red flag, by the way). If he invites you to his place, gracefully decline.

6. Stay Sober-ish

Because, as everybody knows, we don’t make the best decisions when we’re drunk or otherwise intoxicated. And on a first sugar date, you need to have your wits about you. Not just for safety, but also so you can get a clear feel for the potential sugar daddy you’re with.

Note: If you get the impression that a potential sugar daddy is persuading you to drink or do drugs on a first sugar date, that is a red flag. It’s time to call it a night and get out of dodge.

7. Listen to Your Instincts

As always, if something seems too good to be true, it’s most likely because it is. If a potential sugar daddy gives you a strange feeling, you never need to stick around to find out why.

If something feels off, just listen to your gut. There are always more sugar daddies and other opportunities. But you need to be safe and healthy in order to enjoy them so always prioritize your own safety.

Conclusion

In this blog, we delved into the topic of sugar dating, focusing on the safety of the Seeking.com website, the potential dangers of being in a sugar relationship, and providing some tips for sugar babies. By exploring these aspects, we aim to provide readers with a comprehensive understanding of the sugar dating world.

In conclusion, sugar dating can be a complex and potentially risky endeavor. While Seeking.com strives to provide a safe platform, it is essential for individuals involved in sugar relationships to prioritize their personal safety, be mindful of potential dangers, and approach these relationships with caution. By setting clear boundaries, maintaining open communication, and focusing on personal growth, sugar babies can navigate the sugar dating world more confidently and responsibly. Ultimately, it is up to individuals to make informed choices that align with their own values and aspirations.